Monday, December 31, 2012

Kasandra Perkins: How Feminism Failed Jovan Belcher Victim- by Lily Bolourian of PolicyMic


Kasandra Perkins: How Feminism Failed Jovan Belcher Victim

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My inaugural post at PolicyMic about author Caitlin Moran and women of colors’ access to feminism drew a lot more criticism than I ever intended it to. Shortly after my piece was posted, Ms. Moran also proceeded to block me from communicating with her on Twitter. Normally, when a writer draws so much criticism for her work, she walks it back and certainly tones it down. You won’t find that from me this time. I realize that I am far from infallible, and absolutely worthy of criticism, and I have reflected upon that criticism.  Instead of apologizing for taking white feminists to task, I intend on doubling down very hard on the harsh truth of feminism’s relationship with race, regardless of how uncomfortable that might make some people feel. We have sat quietly for far too long and it has gotten us nowhere in this movement. I refuse to be quiet anymore.
The concept of “comfort” is an important one within any progressive movement. There will always be those who are comfortable with the status quo because it does not affect them or their lives negatively directly. Or, perhaps, it does and they would rather not address it or delve too deep. Sometimes it is easier that way. Sometimes it is safer that way. But the uncomfortable truth about feminism is this: Persons of color are not given the same consideration. Women, people of color are not given the same access to this movement as others are, and this should not give anyone any comfort.
As I write this post, I reflect upon Kasandra Perkins, the 22-year-old girlfriend of Kansas City Chiefs linebacker, Jovan Belcher, who was shot dead in her home in front of Belcher's mother, her young child in the other room. Belcher later killed himself. I wonder if things would have been different for her if she had access to domestic violence services which aid many women. Perkins was a woman of color, an “other” in the feminist movement, one who may not have had explained to her what feminism is about. I wonder if Kasandra would have had the same “luck” if she had, indeed, chosen to take advantage of those services. 
According to the Department of Justice’s Women of Color Network, charged with providing information on domestic violence and race, a leading reason women of color do not leave situations of domestic abuse is, “Skepticism and distrust that shelter and intervention services are not culturally or linguistically competent.” This is where feminism failed Kasandra Perkins and the three others we lose daily to situations of domestic abuse, many of whom are of color. Feminism’s inherent laziness when it comes to issues concerning marginalized people cuts a deep mark into the soul of the movement. When a high-profile crime such as this one occurs, feminists all over should step back and wonder where we could have done more (or anything at all) for Ms. Perkins and the other victims of our societal failures.
But for feminists, the true shame is the lack of critical thought behind Kasandra’s murder regarding where her race could have been relevant. Whether Kasandra believed in the movement or not, had she been offered the same services which white women can access more easily, something could potentially have done something to save her life.
This is where marginalizing the “other” becomes more than frustrating. It becomes dangerous, even life-threatening. Women of color are routinely told to be silent so that white feminists can advance our agenda for us. But what happens, instead, is that feminism grows and caters towards issues that concern the white community, while erasing the experience and needs of communities of color. We are told that our turn will come. When we get frustrated, we are told that we are dividing the movement for speaking out at so-called inopportune times. 
That is not feminism. While it may be nothing but jokes and giggles to some, this much is certain: The marginalization of the people who need feminism the most will be the end of feminism. And it should be. A movement predicated on the notion of true equality (a belief I continue to hold strongly, by the way) cannot be considered credible when it disregards the softer voices that often need it the most. If that is what leads feminism to the cliff, let it stumble off. 
I am a good feminist, better than some of our major “leaders," not in spite of, but because of my criticism of its status. If feminism requires silence to continue on in full stride, let the movement fall on its face. Women of color matter more than the lip service that we have been due. Kasandra Perkins certainly mattered more.If this notion makes you uncomfortable, call it a gift. Progress cannot occur unless you are shaken to your core, though it never should have to come due to the senseless loss of life. 
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Feminism thrives by Puspa Achanta, in Citizen Matters Bangelore






Tue, 01 Jan


Citizen Matters- Bangelore
PUSHPA ACHANTA, 31 Dec 2012
http://bangalore.citizenmatters.in/blogs/show_entry/4788-feminism-thrives
Feminism thrives
The current socio-political (re)awakening nationwide encouraged me to share this piece that I had penned sometime back.
I do not recall when and where I first heard the word feminist. But I am certain that it is essential to remember some of the positive contributions that feminism has made to women and society overall. These include the securing of voting rights for women, the right to work outside home, inclusion in anti-discrimination laws, et al. All this was achieved through the relentless and determined efforts of many courageous and committed women and some men, amidst much opposition. And the women's movement continues to evolve despite divisions based on race, faith, class, disabilities, gender and other factors.
Past and present
But what does feminism mean to people now? I spoke to a cross section of Bangaloreans to understand their views.
"Feminism is and always has been relevant. It's not feminism's fault that its meaning is misinterpreted by so many" said C K Meena, a popular city based columnist and novelist, when asked about the current state of feminism. On the other hand, poet and author A. Revathi, a hijra (transsexual woman) in her mid-40's who was involved in many gender rights campaigns, revealed, "I do not believe in feminism any more even though it may provide a sense of security. In my experience, it is a mere term that has given me more pain than satisfaction. But I continue to enjoy and respect womanhood and will keep doing my best to protect the rights and freedom of women, girls and sexual minorities, as an individual".
At a discussion held in mid 2010 about Missing Half the Story: Journalism As If Gender Matters, a book highlighting the under representation of women in and by the news media, a man in the audience, aged over 40, remarked, "It has become fashionable to highlight women's issues or state that they are ignored. This is one of the problems with feminism". An older lady countered him with the words, "Do crimes against women not exceed those on men greatly? It is common knowledge that men often perpetrate these inhuman acts. We need feminism until we have an egalitarian society".
More recently, to a question on what feminism means, a young author and co-founder of the art magazine Urban Confustions, Rheea Mukherjee, responded, "Feminism to me is embracing what women are capable of, and pushing for a society that does not limit the imagination of humanity as a whole. Our communities must continue the process of learning how important it is to acknowledge gender inequality and embrace individuals based on their unique personalities and contributions". Contrastingly, Jatin Prabhu, a Bangalorean limerick writer in his 30's mentioned, "Having a mother who is a staunch feminist and a flurry of former female bosses, I am predisposed to a prejudice against feminism. But I believe the concept and the movement are important".
Budding feminists? 
Although the word feminism may evoke some discomfort, its significance is likely to remain for long. Gauri Sanghi, a student of the Srishti School of Art, Design and Technology, Yelahanka, shared, "Feminism is a way of looking at oneself, wanting to live the way you chose. Of course a lot of baggage comes with the word. It has its history and means much bigger things but for me at least at this point, it is a lot about how i connect to myself, my body and my choices". Azhar Khan, doing his post-graduate degree in Political Science from St. Joseph's College, Bangalore, added, "Feminists brought focus to the issue of women being being denied equal social status under the patriarchal system which thrives still. We must create a balance in rights and entitlements for women and men and address challenges of all genders, collectively."
Interestingly, 43-year old Shanti, a barely literate domestic worker cum tailor, is not necessarily a feminist. But she believes that women require education, economic independence and pragmatism in marriage. And she is ensuring that for her 2 daughters Sirisha (an employed graduate aged 24) and Soni (a studious and sprightly school going twelve year old). This is probably a silent version of modern feminism in practice.
True and false
In the issues that sparkle today's prism
What shines through is feminism
Men dare not tussle
'Cause women have the muscle
To rename it "Masculinism"

- Limerick by Bangalore artist Jatin Prabhu

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Wednesday, December 19, 2012

"Guns and the Decline of the Young Man"


The conversation about white male privilege in the wake of the Newtown shootings, which occurred mere minutes away from my own small and homogeneous hometown, is opening up a larger dialogue about race and privilege.

I find this article, published in the New York Times by a white academic to be problematic for a number of reasons. How do you feel? 


I  welcome feedback and analysis. 

Guns and the Decline of the Young Man

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In the wake of the school massacre in Newtown, Conn., and the resulting renewed debate on gun control in the United States, The Stone will publish a series of essays this week that examine the ethical, social and humanitarian implications of the use, possession and regulation of weapons. Other articles in the series can be foundhere.
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Adam Lanza was a young man. Jacob Roberts was a young man. James Holmes is a young man. Seung-Hui Cho was a young man. Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold were young men.
We can all name a dozen or so hypotheses about why they kill: their parents’ unlocked gun cabinet, easy access to weapons on the Internet, over- or under-medication, violent video games and TV programs, undiagnosed or misdiagnosed mental disorders, abusive or indifferent parents, no stable social network, bullying. However, young women are equally exposed to many of the same conditions yet rarely turn a weapon on others. This leaves us wondering about the young men.
There is something about life in the United States, it seems, that is conducive to young men planning and executing large-scale massacres. But the reasons elude us.
The first reaction to the horror and bloodshed of a mass killing like the one in Newtown, Conn., is a rekindling of the gun control debate. I happen to believe, along with many others, that the repeated mandate we give to the National Rifle Association and its lobby, and the complacency with which we allow our politicians to be subject to the will of gun manufacturers is odious.
In the United States, the angry white man has usurped the angry black man.
Limiting access to weapons is certainly a pragmatic albeit incomplete solution to the United States’ propensity for murder. However, were the guns to vanish instantaneously, the specter that haunts our young men would still hover in silence, darkly.
What is it that touches them?
I come from a small town near Fort Worth, Texas. In this region, like many others across the United States, young men are having a very hard time of it. When I consider how all of the people I knew there are faring, including my own family members, the women have come out considerably better than the men. While many of the women were pregnant in high school and have struggled with abusive relationships, financial hardships and addictions, they’ve often found ways to make their lives work, at least provisionally, and to live with their children if not provide for them in more substantial ways.
The same cannot be said for many young men in the region, who are often absent fathers of multiple children by multiple women, unemployed or underemployed, sullen and full of rage. While every woman in my family has done O.K. in the end, every man on one side of my family except for my grandfather has spent time in jail, abused drugs or alcohol, suffered from acute depression, or all of the above. Furthermore, pervasive methamphetamine use, alcoholism, physical and psychological abuse and severe depression have swept not only my hometown and my region but large segments of the United States. If this pattern is not familiar to you personally, I am certain it is the lived experience of someone you know.
This is merely anecdotal evidence, not social science, but I believe that it is indicative of a sort of infection spreading in our collective brain, one that whispers to the American subconscious: “The young men are in decline.” They were once our heroes, our young and shining fathers, our sweet brothers, our tireless athletes, our fearless warriors, the brains of our institutions, the makers of our wares, the movers of our world. In the Western imagination, the valiance of symbolically charged figures like Homer’s Ulysses or the Knights of the Round Table remained unquestioned since their conception. However, as centuries progressed and stable categories faltered, the hero figure faces increasing precarity. Even if we consider the 20th century alone, we see this shift from World War II, when the categories of good and evil were firm, to later conflicts like the wars in Vietnam and Iraq, involving a disparity between what the government believed to be right and what much of the civilian population did.
Does the heroic young man still make sense today, or has his value already been depleted?
Certainly, there are young men who are paragons of success: the entrepreneurs of Silicon Valley, the sharply dressed bankers, the swarms of brilliant graduates who receive their diplomas each year. And there are heroes who fight our fires, soldiers who fight our wars and the first-responders who are the first to set eyes on the dead children’s bodies at the scenes of mass shootings. But more young men these days are avatars of soldiers rather than soldiers themselves.
If the soldier has largely been replaced by the video game character and the drone, if the mothers have proven that they can raise the children alone, if the corporations are less able or willing to guarantee the possibility of upward mobility and some level of respect that comes with title, if someone else can bring home the bacon, what is left for young men?
All this, and they still are not allowed to cry.
There is also the issue of race. Not all of the men I listed in the beginning of this piece are Caucasian. However, take a moment and imagine what the archetypical image of a mass murderer in the United States looks like. Is he white in your mind? This image can only be attributed to the truth of those patterns that have established themselves, from Charles Whitman’s 1966 shooting spree at the University of Texas, to Timothy McVeigh’s 1995 Oklahoma City bombing, to the 1999 Columbine massacre, to Wade Michael Page’s 2012 attack on the Sikh temple in Wisconsin. The mass murderer is a type. And his race is white.
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Young, African-American men are often imagined to be violent on the street, killing one another in gang-related violence or murdering convenience store clerks while trying to empty the cash register. The stereotypical image, even in its wrongheaded reduction of the black man to an inherently violent being, does not leave room for that other kind of murderer, the one who plans and executes a calculated, non-spontaneous large-scale death spree.
The angry white man has usurped the angry black man.
I would argue that maleness and whiteness are commodities in decline. And while those of us who are not male or white have enjoyed some benefits from their decline, the sort of violence and murder that took place at Sandy Hook Elementary will continue to occur if we do not find a way to carry them along with us in our successes rather than leaving them behind.
For women, things are looking up. We can vote, we can make more choices about our bodies than in decades past, we’ve made significant progress regarding fair pay, and more women are involved in American politics than ever before. The same can be said for minorities. However, because resources are limited, gains for women and minorities necessarily equal losses for white males. Even if this feels intuitively fair to many, including those white males who are happy to share resources for the greater benefit of the nation as a whole, it must feel absolutely distressing for those who are uncomfortable with change and who have a difficult time adjusting to the inevitable reordering of society.
From the civil rights and feminist movements of the 1960s and onward, young men – and young white men in particular – have increasingly been asked to yield what they’d believed was securely theirs. This underlying fact, compounded by the backdrop of violent entertainment and easy access to weapons, creates the conditions for thousands of young men to consider their future prospects and decide they would rather destroy than create.
Can you imagine being in the shoes of the one who feels his power slipping away? Who can find nothing stable to believe in? Who feels himself becoming unnecessary? That powerlessness and fear ties a dark knot in his stomach. As this knot thickens, a centripetal hatred moves inward toward the self as a centrifugal hatred is cast outward at others: his parents, his girlfriend, his boss, his classmates, society, life.
A partial solution to these toxic circumstances could be a coordinated cultivation of what might be called an empathic habit. Most people surely felt an impulsive empathy for the parents and survivors involved in the Sandy Hook massacre, as shown by the countless memorial services and candlelight vigils that took place after the murders. But empathy could help best if exercised before rather than after such tragedies.
Empathy could serve many of us: those who have not yet put themselves in the position of a person who is losing their power and those who can aim a gun at someone without imagining themselves on the other end of the barrel. For those of us who belong to a demographic that is doing increasingly better, a trained empathic reflex toward those we know to be losing for our gains could lead to a more deferential attitude on our part and could constitute an invitation for them to stay with us. To delight in their losses and aim at them the question, “How does it feel?” will only trigger a cycle of resentment and plant the seeds for vengeance. It is crucial to accommodate the pain of others.
For a start, feeling needed is undoubtedly essential to each individual. This fact must be addressed at home, at school, in the workplace, and in politics. For example, one could envision the development of a school curriculum that centers around an empathic practice, particularly in courses such as history, social studies, literature, and political science. If students have no access to an empathic model at home, they would at least be exposed to it in the classroom. In the workplace, the C.E.O. must be able to put herself in the position of the lowest ranked employee and vice versa. Victims and victors must engage in the hypothetical practice that forces each to acknowledge the others’ fortunes and misfortunes.
Empathy is difficult because it forces us to feel the suffering of others. It is destabilizing to imagine that if we are lucky or blessed, it just as easily could have gone some other way. For the young men, whose position is in some ways more difficult than that of their fathers and grandfathers, life seems at times to have stacked the cards against them. It is for everyone to realize the capricious nature of history, which never bets consistently on one group over another. We should learn to cast ourselves simultaneously in the role of winner and loser, aggressor and victim.
We have a choice whether our national refrain of “No more mass murders” will be meaningful or meaningless. We cannot neglect the young men. By becoming empathic stewards of civic and personal life, there is a chance we could make someone think twice before targeting another human being.

Christy Wampole
Christy Wampole is an assistant professor of French at Princeton University. Her research focuses primarily on 20th- and 21st-century French and Italian literature and thought.